My Mind Can't Stop...

I've just been thinking about all the porn available for everyone to see, and how it's evolved into this money making machine. I have several questions though, as to the actual safe sex practices that take place. I enjoy fantasizing about men swallowing, and occasional barebacking, but in real life, we have to remember the potential outcome of our decisions. We were preached to, as young adults, the importance of safe sex, but when talking to my 16 y.o. godson about it, he is kind of out in the left field! The subject seems to have taken a back seat. That worries me. When I first was introduced to porn, it happened to be the vintage, pre-condom days. As things progressed, the condoms were clearly visible as were other protective measures. I watch on XTube and others, and the kids out there that are going at it with multiple partners unprotected, really frightens me. And I know there are legit industries out there, ChiChi LaRue for one, who enforces safe sex. But what about these others that have their own sites, Jake Cruise for example... I've seen fucking without a condom.... unless, there is a condom but they want us to think they're actually barebacking. I doubt that's the case (and it would have to be way up the guys ass so we can't see it). There are so many others... broke straight boys is another. Not that every scene is unprotected, but I have seen several. There isn't much we can do to stop amateurs from posting on XTube (or is there), but I hope the bigger named studios take the appropriate actions and educate their employees. I had a terrifying scare a few years back. I started dating this guy, and I wanted to move slow, get to know him, then get tested after 6 months of dating (that's how I roll). We did all that, and low and behold, he was positive. We had messed around a little, minus sucking cock and fucking. I grew closer to him, educating myself on having a significant other who is infected, and how I can keep the relationship alive and healthy and safe. Needless to say, he was a total loser and broke up with me... telling everyone I dumped him because he had HIV! WTF? Several months later, I get a call from the county to set up a meeting with the health department. I get there, and she informed me that I was listed as having contact with an HIV infected person. I was quite taken aback. I was actually impressed that things rolled that way! They begged me to take a test, free on the state, but I declined. I have been going to the same anonymous clinic since I was 20 years old, and wasn't about to have my name in the states database. All checked out well with me, but from that point, I've been quite a prude. Just a few more rambles, then I'm off. I have many girl friends in my life... they are my best friends. When I asked when the last time they used a condom was, there was total silence. All of them responded with "I'm on the pill...". These girls are quite promiscuous to say the least, and apparently not the brightest. They said I'm the one that needs to worry about getting AIDS, because I'm gay! And if they missed the pill and got preggo, they abort, as if thats's acceptable. But I digress. There are so many STD's out there, not just HIV / AIDS, and we are ALL at risk if we don't take care of ourselves. Gay, straight, it doesn't matter. I can talk to my galpals til I'm blue in the face, and they don't seem to think they are at risk. What is a friend to do. When you're in the heat of the moment, and sometimes the moment takes over, try to think of yourself, your future, and remember you are not the first person this guy has fucked around with. I hate to see us go backwards in time... we are much smarter than we were back in the day. Let's suck up our pride and treat ourselves with a little more respect. Thanks for listening. I feel better now!